First let me say I have missed writing! It's funny how you put aside things you love doing when life gets in the way. Why do we do that? I bet if you made a list of all the things you really enjoy, the things you really love to do, you find yourself pushing those aside to take care of the things "that have to be done". I put that in quotes because what I'm finding in this time of my life is that I have been making up that urgency. Let me explain.
Last year I was developing a business plan to open my retail consignment store. It was a time and mind consuming project. I felt there were things I just "had" to get done. Once the ball was in motion for the actual opening of the store, there were more things to obsess about. The kids would ask for family game night, the answer, "not tonight I'm too tired" or "not tonight, mommy has to work on this". This was normal life, and I see it in so many of my friends and acquaintances as well.
My world changed drastically in November 2016. I was unprepared for it, felt the proverbial rug pulled out from under me and lost my bearings on the direction of my life. I can't go into details, suffice it to say I suddenly found myself needing to come up with Plan B, and quick! I went from a 2600 sq foot home on a golf course with a beautiful pool and room to run my eBay business, down to a 1300 sq ft town home with a small patio and 1 car garage. I was now the person two beautiful children needed to count on for stability and consistency as life became a scary unknown.
I found I was pouring myself into the business, determined to prove I could do this alone. I was working 12 hours a day 7 days a week with always things left undone and important. Fast forward months and I look now and realize I wasn't living. I wasn't playing, I wasn't having any fun. That is no way to live and also no example to give children!
I am happy to say that since this epiphany I am taking time to do things with friends, taking time to play games or go to the pool with my kids. I'm taking time to get pedicures or do a little shopping. I even changed the hours of my store to close earlier and cut back to just 4 hours on Sundays. The results; I am more rested, the kids have more of me, less fast food and the store has not lost any business over it (we tracked foot traffic by time of day before making this decision I might add).
Why am I telling you all of this? I know too many of you are doing the same thing, just trying to get ahead, trying to get caught up on work, trying to be successful and the list goes on. Don't forget that you have today, that's it, today. There is no promise of tomorrow, there is no knowing what could happen tomorrow. Sure you can plan for things, you can have routines and a basic layout of how life will go, but everything can change in a heartbeat.
I know this all sounds cliche'. I know I've heard similar words a million times and thought yeah yeah yeah. Now that I'm living it, it really is smacking me upside the head. I'm half way through my life and there is so much life I haven't lived, haven't allowed myself to live. I don't even have a bucket list! My first step is going to be to create a bucket list of things I would love to do in my lifetime. I am going to set aside the fears of "oh I can't do that, it requires a long plane flight" and just put things on the list.
I challenge you today, create your bucket list and start taking steps to live, really live each day. Scrutinize like crazy what is REALLY important or what can get done later or by others. Ready...set....GO!